I’d like to think that I’m not the only one who tends to be a little “annoying” with close friends and family. Isn’t it interesting how the people who are closest to us usually have to put up with our “tantrums” and bad days more often than they should?
For reasons that I still don’t understand, the people we love the most are the ones who usually have to wait the longest to hear from us an “I am sorry”. It’s as if we have subconsciously decided that they have to guarantee us that they will always forgive our mistakes. They may be our husbands, closest friends, brothers or sisters, parents or children, so why shouldn’t they?
We don’t take the time to analyze how a relationship slowly crumbles not because of one specific mistake, but because of several small instances in which we didn’t take the time to say we are sorry. When we try to understand the pain and suffering our loved ones go through as they patiently wait for us to apologize, we can see that the sooner we approach them with a humble and honest intention, the less they hurt and the stronger the relationship gets.
When it comes to family and close friends, it’s better to forgive and ask for forgiveness as soon as possible. Maybe the perfect words are not at hand and maybe there is not a nice way to adorn the event, as long as we don’t take longer than needed to be courageous and say “I am sorry”. Make sure the people you love the most know that you are not taking them for granted, that their feelings matter and that their forgiveness is important to you.