A while ago someone asked me how could I have been working for almost ten years with my husband and look so happy, relaxed, and still be together? Although I don’t remember what I replied, I know the complete answer would take hours because of the many experiences that have had to happen to make it a possible experience.
I am not an expert in the subject, but after some discussions, mistakes, promises, and agreements, I can assure you without a doubt that today my husband and I have a work relationship that gets stronger every day. It is finally growing because it has been set on a solid foundation, and when I say finally, I say it with all honesty because it took us a long time to get to the place we are at today.
What provides peace and balance in work relationships is to give freedom to people’s strengths. The key is to discover, respect and encourage the strengths of each member of the team, including ourselves, and no matter how big the team is. What does this mean?
- If we know our strengths and the ones of others, it will be much easier to delegate, and to accept authority. Believe me, to maturely accept authority from your partner at work is an enormous task. And maybe some women are more sensitive to taking things personally, but when we know the strengths of the other person, it will be easier to understand where that person is coming from and see it from a different perspective.
- When we focus on strengthening our talents and not in improving our weaknesses, we start investing our time wisely. It is difficult for someone not to shine at work when they dedicate themselves to improve their talents.
- When I respect the strengths of the people who work with me it is going to be easier to respect that person.
- When we dedicate our lives to things that are not our strengths, sooner or later exhaustion will come. This frustration will pollute the working team affecting morale and effectiveness.
If your workplace is an opportunity to polish your talents and strengths, wonderful! If not, take your current job, whatever it is, and try to mold it according to your strengths. If like me, you work with the person you love, put your strengths into the heart of your project, and you will go far working as a team.