Has anyone at work ever treated you in a way that you felt was unfair or uncalled for? Maybe someone took credit for something you did, or a certain person didn’t take responsibility for something he or she did. To make things even more challenging, sometimes our coworkers don’t even realize or “pretend” not to realize that they acted wrongfully or they may have even done it on purpose wanting to further their own career, not caring who they step over.
The workplace can be tough and sometimes it may feel like a battle ground. We spend a lot of time in our offices, whatever our “office” may be and we are with the same people under all types of situations, so it is not surprising that forgiveness is essential at work.
Forgiveness under any circumstance is tough, but it seems to be extra difficult when there is no visible remorse or even acknowledgement from the person we need to forgive. It helps to remember that we forgive for ourselves. Holding on to past offenses becomes heavy baggage. Forgiving someone who doesn’t seem to “deserve it” can only be done when we choose to let go of our need to hear from the person who treated us unfairly: “I am sorry I hurt you, I regret it” We want someone to feel our anger and pain. We want justice. But what do we do when we can’t seem to find that “justice” we imagined yet we still have to forgive for our own good?
Listen and talk: If possible, try to find a way to clarify the situation and fix the issues. A positive environment at work is always a good thing.
Let it go: Sometimes people tend to see what they want to see and hear what they want to hear, with conversations ending up nowhere. When that happens, recognize it and simply let it go.
Learn from the situation: One thing is to let go of a situation, another is to let it happen again. Forgiving is letting go of an offense, but it is not a free ticket for people to walk all over you. You can learn from every situation so the next time it won’t happen because you know how to avoid it.
Forgiveness takes courage and self-control and that makes you a stronger person each time you practice it, so taking that strength and putting it into practice will make a difference in your life. It may take a long time for things to fall into place and for situations to finally make sense, but the satisfaction of doing the right thing not because you care who is watching, but because you care how it affects you is priceless.